heroines

there continues to appear this sassy girl, especially in asian (bollywood and korean) movies. and so we begin to wonder if she is indeed the ideal girl. for doesn't art reflect life? or at least heroins reflect our aspirations in life.

she is often pitted against the conservative girl and the hero usually struggles with choosing whomever is the better option.

who is the better option? amber from 'house' says she had to choose between love and respect. is this 'love' that we seek something at the cost of our better well-being? is it so rare for the two to co-exist?

i think on this because it is again a narrow description of women. we are either 'sassy' or 'conservative'. even cartoonists have a smaller remit of female characters and the obvious ones are the femme fatale, old lady and girl.

so if we were to be drawn differently, how would we draw ourselves? and what would that cost us?

To Betray

be·tray

tr.v. be·trayed, be·tray·ing, be·trays

1.

a. To give aid or information to an enemy of; commit treason against: betray one's country.

b. To deliver into the hands of an enemy in violation of a trust or allegiance: betrayed Christ to the Romans.

2. To be false or disloyal to: betrayed their cause; betray one's better nature.

3. To divulge in a breach of confidence: betray a secret.

4. To make known unintentionally: Her hollow laugh betrayed her contempt for the idea.

5. To reveal against one's desire or will.

6. To lead astray; deceive. See Synonyms at deceive.

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[Middle English bitrayen : bi-, be- + trayen, to betray (from Old French trair, from Latin tradere, to hand over; see tradition).]

[The American Heritage Dictionary 2009]

I thought that if I posted several definitions of 'to betray', I would be satisfied by their descriptions. I would feel like someone had adequately addressed my suffering. But perhaps the act is so far past me that the sting of a memory is no sting at all and therefore cannot be matched by any dictionary's definition.

What would be my own definition? Simply; To deceive, under the guise of love.

Because deception can come in so many ways and is inherently against one's will or knowledge.Why do we betray? Because we don't love enough?